By Derrick Brown (follow on Twitter @dbrowndbrown)
- Boss bullies via emails (that no one else sees)?
- Neighbor / client / employee / co-worker is "strong in their wrong"?
- Board of directors needs directing?
We present them below using six-word (or fewer) "stories" (a comprehensive, concise, simple way to handle sensitive communication) ...
Count All The Costs Of Resolution
- Accept that you cannot control others.
- Recognize that you can control yourself.
- Acknowledge that resolution may be expensive.
- Acknowledge that inaction may cost more.
Weigh Your Options; Choose Your Path
2. Identify all your sources of power ...
a. Resources (creativity, relationships and finance)
b. Interests (passions, purpose, and ministry)
c. Communication (discourse, charisma, and audience)
d. Expertise (information, knowledge, and wisdom)
3. Choose a powerful way to proceed.
- Humility, healing, and patience are virtues.
- Angry roots produce many bitter fruits.
- Healed roots produce much better fruits.
- Freedom of speech means come correct.
- Learn to tell your story well.
- Value listening much more than speaking.
- Economy of words facilitate greater comprehension.
- Civil discourse between dissenters promotes growth.
- You must protect time and family.
- All money is not good money.
- You must get your money right.
- Freedom from oppression is not free.
- Your fear is your only courage.
- Opportunities are often disguised as conflicts.
- Do not mistake activity for achievement.
Georgia Office of Dispute Resolution #39788
Derrick Brown has 15 years of collective (and firsthand) experience (as a school and homeowner's association board member, school administrator, consultant, and registered mediator) handling the sticky and tricky.